Sorry to hear that you were not able to fix this issue. I definitely know what it's like when you are trying to troubleshoot an issue and the other party is unwilling to help!
Have you tried a packet capture? Here are the steps to run a packet capture on the appliance:
Capture Messages
1. Enable support account from CLI
2. Have your customer or sender ready to send in a few test messages
3. Get the sender address, recipient address and the approx. time of sending for each email sent
4. Type the following from the CLI:
tcpdump -s 0 -w /tmp/tcpdump/capture.cap -i any tcp port 25
5. When the tcpdump starts you will see the message "WARNING: Promiscuous mode not supported on the "any" device" This is normal.
6. When messages are sent, wait a few minutes then hit "CTRL+C" to end tcpdump
7. Transfer the file /data/capture.cap from the appliance to your PC
8. You can then analyse the capture file with a tool like Wireshark
Addition: Capture smtp traffic only from/to a certain host
tcpdump -s 0 -w /tmp/tcpdump/capture.cap -i any tcp port 25 and host 192.168.0.20